When Your Emotions Manipulate Your Behavior

Ever have an emotional outburst that turned a mountain into a molehill? Boy I have. For years my biggest struggle has been controlling my reactions. I know that you are supposed to respond versus react. I know that I have been given the fruit of the spirit which includes self control. I know that all things work together for the good of those who love Him, that I’m in that number, and that at the end of the day it’s all going to work out…but inevitably I still lose my mouth, get all worked up, and wind up a hot mess going what just happened.

Sound like anyone else? If not well then call it for what it is, but I know that I’ve been there more than once. What I’ve learned is that my self control flies out the window when I allow my emotions to be my driving force. You see when we get in our emotions we are not walking in the spirit, nor are we exercising the gifts of the spirit. You can’t be one foot in one foot out. So if you aren’t walking in the spirit you are walking in the world. The result? Well the results are worldly. Worldly reactions, anger, fits, anxiety.

Now just because you deal with these things, doesn’t negate your Christianity. None of us are perfect. The only one that ever was was Jesus Christ. If we were we wouldn’t need Him. But we are not so we most definitely do! It should however cause you to look at your own spiritual walk and health. If you are struggling with emotional manipulation of your own behavior, there are a few things you can do to alleviate your struggle.

  1. Renew your mind daily. Getting in the Word of God is the number 1 thing that people neglect to do and that people need. It’s like an infant who is starving and screaming but not being fed. If you don’t feed it, it will never grow. But if you do eventually they move on from the bottle to solid food. But the moment you stop feeding it, the starving returns, and the child goes back to an emotional, unstable state. Eventually starving leads to death.
  2. Find quiet time. If you are not finding time to get quiet, chances are your are frazzled. Being busy to the point that you can’t get still and here the voice of God, reflect on your blessings, and clear your mind means you are too busy. If your schedule doesn’t allow for a few minutes a day, at least once a day, for quiet time, it’s time to reassess you priorities. You can either get up earlier, stay up later, or let something go. However you do it, quiet time alone with God is a necessity, not an option.
  3. Get enough sleep. If you are tired you are going to be emotional. It’s a fact. There is no way around it, we have to sleep. In this fast food society we live in most of us are burning the candle at both ends but it goes back to number 2. Reassess what you’re spending your time doing and make the necessary adjustments. It’s imperative to your daily sanity, your walk with God, and your ability to be the best you.
  4. Take care of yourself. Making better decisions is achievable. You don’t have to be perfect or fit someone else’s plan, just measure what you’re doing by what you already know is good for you. Choose to have self control in your portions when you eat. Get up and move more. Take time to fix your hair, paint your nails, and clean your house. Do those things that make you feel important to you.

I know life can get crazy. Trust me with 4 little boys, mine is always crazy, noisy, and busy. But I also know that without getting control of our emotions we can not be the best form of us. We were created for greatness, but we have to choose daily to walk in it!


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