Parenting isn’t easy, but it’s even harder when you try to do it on your own! It really does take a village to raise a child! Here you’ll find tips, bloopers, and first hand experiences that will hopefully make you laugh, cry, and breathe a little easier.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned.
John 15:5-6 NIV
Ever sit back and realize that you’re attempt at abiding in the Word and in God has failed and your fruit while its hanging from the vine its got a bitter taste and a weakened aroma. Yeah some days I’m that mom. I’m that wife, that friend, that daughter, that sister; I’m that Christian. Continue reading →
Ever wonder what in the world you could do to make you day flow better. I know I have! I wonder how can I not be in a rush with my kids, how can I stay on top of the endless mountain of laundry, how can I manage to get a few moments of quiet before the beautiful hustle and bustle of life gets going. The answer is simple but it requires discipline and a willingness to push yourself. The answer lies in an age old saying… Continue reading →
Ever have an emotional outburst that turned a mountain into a molehill? Boy I have. For years my biggest struggle has been controlling my reactions. I know that you are supposed to respond versus react. I know that I have been given the fruit of the spirit which includes self control. I know that all things work together for the good of those who love Him, that I’m in that number, and that at the end of the day it’s all going to work out…but inevitably I still lose my mouth, get all worked up, and wind up a hot mess going what just happened.
Sound like anyone else? If not well then call it for what it is, but I know that I’ve been there more than once. What I’ve learned is that my self control flies out the window when I allow my emotions to be my driving force. You see when we get in our emotions we are not walking in the spirit, nor are we exercising the gifts of the spirit. You can’t be one foot in one foot out. So if you aren’t walking in the spirit you are walking in the world. The result? Well the results are worldly. Worldly reactions, anger, fits, anxiety.
Now just because you deal with these things, doesn’t negate your Christianity. None of us are perfect. The only one that ever was was Jesus Christ. If we were we wouldn’t need Him. But we are not so we most definitely do! It should however cause you to look at your own spiritual walk and health. If you are struggling with emotional manipulation of your own behavior, there are a few things you can do to alleviate your struggle.
Renew your mind daily. Getting in the Word of God is the number 1 thing that people neglect to do and that people need. It’s like an infant who is starving and screaming but not being fed. If you don’t feed it, it will never grow. But if you do eventually they move on from the bottle to solid food. But the moment you stop feeding it, the starving returns, and the child goes back to an emotional, unstable state. Eventually starving leads to death.
Find quiet time. If you are not finding time to get quiet, chances are your are frazzled. Being busy to the point that you can’t get still and here the voice of God, reflect on your blessings, and clear your mind means you are too busy. If your schedule doesn’t allow for a few minutes a day, at least once a day, for quiet time, it’s time to reassess you priorities. You can either get up earlier, stay up later, or let something go. However you do it, quiet time alone with God is a necessity, not an option.
Get enough sleep. If you are tired you are going to be emotional. It’s a fact. There is no way around it, we have to sleep. In this fast food society we live in most of us are burning the candle at both ends but it goes back to number 2. Reassess what you’re spending your time doing and make the necessary adjustments. It’s imperative to your daily sanity, your walk with God, and your ability to be the best you.
Take care of yourself. Making better decisions is achievable. You don’t have to be perfect or fit someone else’s plan, just measure what you’re doing by what you already know is good for you. Choose to have self control in your portions when you eat. Get up and move more. Take time to fix your hair, paint your nails, and clean your house. Do those things that make you feel important to you.
I know life can get crazy. Trust me with 4 little boys, mine is always crazy, noisy, and busy. But I also know that without getting control of our emotions we can not be the best form of us. We were created for greatness, but we have to choose daily to walk in it!
School starts tomorrow and I can’t say that I’m not a bit excited. I love the no routine of summer, late night movies, morning snuggles, and spontaneous day trips, but, there is a nice element of the fall back to school routine.
That said tonight, the night before school starts we are heading to church for Royal Rangers. Some people would disagree with a school night activity right about now but I think there’s no place better the night before putting them back in the hands of the public school.
You see they will be at school more of their awake hours then they will be at home in a lot of cases. They will be around all sorts of kids who are raised all sorts of ways. I can’t control that in school or when they are grown and enter the real world.
What I can do is prepare them, provide opportunities for them to renew their minds, and surround them with Godly influence when I am with them. Its my choice to make, my responsibility. I do t know what tomorrow holds for them but I will know that their hearts are full of the love God and that He will be with them as they conquer the first day of school.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
We all know how hard it is to hold a thought, especially when you’re eight and you need to an answer to what seems like the world’s most important question, and you need it right now. With a house full of boys, four to be exact (not counting my husband), getting heard can be a difficult feat. Add the fact that you have a ministry driven set of parents who are constantly involved in whatever has caused the church doors to open, and you have a case of interruptions waiting to happen.
Recently I took a stab at rethinking this ongoing issue. I started using a signal with my oldest, the eight year old who’s going on twenty five, so that I would not forget that he is patiently, and quietly waiting for a chance to have the floor. When he wants my attention, in the middle of a conversation, he simply puts his hand on my shoulder and waits. To me it’s a signal that he needs to say something but for him it’s an opportunity to be heard. The best part is, it is working fantastically! It doesn’t mean there’s never an interruption but they have become much more controlled, and the younger boys are picking up on it too!!
This new freedom to speak has made him more comfortable interjecting an idea or witty insight to a problem or task that I may be working on, because there is an opportunity for him to have the floor. As a mom of four, a wife, and a secretary, fresh insight is valuable. You never know what a child may come up with or what unique perspective they may have on how to solve a problem, especially if they never get a chance to talk.
So the other Sunday, I’m walking out of church, close to pulling my 6 year old Colby by the ear to the car, and I have to ask him for the millionth time why? Why don’t you do what your told? Why did you misbehave in church today? Why Colby won’t you sit still and listen? Why? Why? Why? His response: I just want to have fun mom. Continue reading →